A lady admits to spiraling after her boyfriend tells her that he sees that she is positive about him as a result of after they started a relationship, he sleeps with ladies of different sizes to make sure that heās pleased together with her.
It may actually be the best coverage, but is there too much of a factor? One girl just asked that after her boyfriend tried to āconvinceā her to leave him feeling it.
The unnamed girl took to Redditās Relationship Recommendations discussion board with her story after her boyfriend revealed what he did early in their relationship left her āspiraling,ā with him saying she āprobably should have saved herself.ā
Learn to find out what they are talking about, and how to get here in the OP (āUnique Posterā).
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Make a test out of Physical Sizes
The so-called āplus sizeā 29-year-old started her story by explaining that her 30-year-old boyfriend was āquite fit, muscular, and thinner than me.ā However, he also emphasized, āI didnāt compare our sizes until he said this.ā
It was mentioned that the comments came here after they had ābeen intimate and were just cuddling and talking about something and everything a lot,ā in keeping with the OP. She went on to say that her boyfriend ātalked about how positive he is about me and has been dreaming about our future.ā
āAfter trying to āconvinceā me that he was positive about me, he mentioned that when he started falling in love with me (quite early, maybe the 2nd or 3rd date?) he slept with the smallest and biggest woman he knew. he can ālike me,āā OP wrote.
He continued to add, āI assumed that these women were sexual partners before, but I didnāt ask the trigger properly, I donāt need to know.ā
Be like a child āyeah I can have anyone but I want to accept youā
The note threw the OP āfor a loop and Iāve been thinking about it ever since she mentioned it.ā She said he āalmost immediately started crying and apologizing and saying he should have saved himself.ā
The OP explained that heās not upset that heās sleeping with different women, because he doesnāt understand the relationship.
āI really feel that if I were smaller than him, he wouldnāt feel the need to do this, let alone tell me that I should be grateful?ā he wrote. āItās better to come here like āyeah baby I can have anyone but I want to accept you.'ā
He then admitted that he was āmost likely overthinking this,ā but not like the way it made him really feel. āI just did a lot of work to be uncomfortable in my pores and skin after years of self-loathing and a lot of issues and I feel like Iāve fit right back into this headspace because of some vague comments.ā
He sums up his expertise in the title, explaining ā with quotes that indicate this is a phrase ā that he ātriedā different physical sizes to make sure he would like them, leaving him to ask, āHow did you get this before?ā
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āSinisterā or āStupidityā
The first thing the OP does is jump back to her unique edit to make it clear that this isnāt about her physicality. āI donāt want weight loss recommendations thanks, thatās not why Iām right here,ā she wrote, dismissing everybody sidestepping her question totally to give attention to her measurements.
āI am so happy with my physique that it is still here, alive, carrying me through the beautiful world and the life that I have learned to love and should be here,ā she wrote. āUsually I need to respect my whole self, no matter what part of me, and I hope you all do too. ā„ļøā
In the best way, there were many commenters who directly addressed the issue, although none were as direct as one consumer who wrote, āI really canāt think about saying this to anyone. Likeā¦ āI actually tried men with Bigger dāks and smaller dāks, just in case I donāt like you, but I see you as an acceptable size and shape. I consider myself not to be positive at first.ā Tf?ā
He looked like he needed her to be grateful that he was with her
The OP admits that she briefly thought about fighting back, āIām actually bisexual and I donāt feel like I need to sleep with a girl to make sure Iāll like you,ā but chose not to. as a result of, āIt became painful after he would spend the rest of our relationship asking if I would like a girl or if I used to deceive people with one.ā
Phrases like āweirdā and āstrangeā have been added to the boyfriend despite doing this little experiment. āIncredibly weird op,ā commented one Redditor. āSleeping with different people to make sure that he can like you may be unusual, after he tells you about it he also has no passion. Are you sure you can see eternity with this individual? This cannot be a purple flag that the first time so far.
Another learns about a boyfriend who shares this with him, including, āHe looks like he needs her to grow up when heās with her like heās doing something, heās not like a fun person, heās deliberately beating her. confidence.ā
āBro actually handled the lady like she was tasting wine,ā wrote another consumer. Another one is confused as to what would happen if the OPās measurements were changed. āIf he loses weight or a positive factor, he just needs to go through the motions again to determine if he likes his adjustments!ā they wrote.
One of the commenters indicated that he was in the same scenario as the OP, writing, āI learned this for my ideal husband. We are each taken choked up through this. He is angry for you. He feels your bf is very shallow, and has no mercy . He told me that he respected ME. Interval.ā
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āWe each really feel the same approach. Trying different women when starting a relationship with you, to see if they have the ability to get a curvy queen? Thatās a bit of a hassle. You really donāt deserve it,ā he continued. āAre you willing to accept someone who feels superior to you? Does anyone doubt that he likes you?ā
For sharing the initial experiment with his girlfriend, Redditors are of two minds. Is it āevilā or āstupid?ā
āIf the OP has a history of ED, it doesnāt seem weirdā¦itās intentional,ā he speculated. āThis is not going to happen. They might just be trying to ED and make one thing. The number of OPs posting here and the fact that their girlfriends are trying to get rid of ED and the OP doesnāt see itā¦itās horrible. These guys always know what theyāre doing, theyāre not stupid .
Another one argues, though, that it might not be that complicated. āAlso for a less evil cause and heās just an idiot,ā he replied. āāI was going to show him that I really liked his size, but he told me that even if I had a choice, I would choose him.ā If Iām flawed and in fact bad, then they can cut it out. I just feel like some idiots donāt care.
One person even jumped on this opportunity, writing, āThis. Iām stupid. I mentioned the problem of pondering I used to be only logical and it made sense to me. . . I didnāt know that I used to be a creep who attacked without considering all possible angles taken from my words.ā
Bro really treats women like he is tasting wine
One response that got the OPās consideration started, āThe hard factor is that with all the work heās done, he doesnāt. So, while Iām sure he really loves you, he probably doesnāt understand the nuances of fatphobia, what itās like to be socialized as a girl and deal with it.ā by the general public as a big girl, etc.. She can understand this, but it seems that she does not understand why such an extraordinary thing happened -how many schools are independent of the subject.ā
āThanks, thatās probably the most deliberate and thoughtful comment Iāve made so far,ā replied the OP. āWe are very happy and I feel loved and appreciated by him, so there is no subject of our relationship.ā
āYouāre right, they canāt understand the underlying emotional context of how I feel about it,ā he continued. āI will take the time to explain properly and ask him to do a little analysis and some of those who are interested. After that what he chooses to do from there will tell me how this type of situation will probably deal with sooner or later and whether or not persistent do the work for/with me. Thank you.ā
Perhaps the easiest way to sum up the initial gut response to the OP is one commenter who wrote, āThatā¦.heā¦.whatā¦?ā To this, another replied, āNo higher can be said. šā
What do you think?