Thousands of people have responded to a man’s story posted on social media as he pleads for information on how to resolve a personal family drama.
A 32-year-old man said he has an older sister “who wants to be a mother, but she hasn’t been able to find the right partner,” the man wrote on a Reddit page known as AITA (“Am I a–hole”).
“After years of waiting, I suggested she consider IVF treatment. I even helped her research the process and find a clinic,” wrote the man, using the username “sweet_thingg.”
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“He liked the idea and decided to go ahead,” he also told another person, according to the post.
She said her sister “has the financial means to pay for IVF on her own, but that means she has to cut back on creature comforts and luxuries for the foreseeable future.”
Writing on Reddit, the man shared that the entire pregnant woman’s family was “very happy for her and she was happy too.” However, her sister, “didn’t expect that it would take many rounds of treatment (IVF), so the bill was higher than we were prepared for.” (iStock)
Then, she said, “after the fourth treatment, she got pregnant” two months ago.
The man said the whole family was “very happy for him and he was happy too. He didn’t expect to get a lot of treatment, so the bill was higher than he (was) prepared for,” he wrote.
The mother-to-be is asking for “help so she doesn’t have to make more sacrifices.”
He said that while he “has enough money to support himself, but it’s not very comfortable,” he still asks for help from his family so he doesn’t have to sacrifice more.
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He added, “Our parents are retired and live on a fixed income, so they can’t contribute much. This leaves me as the main source of potential financial support.”
So, last week, the man wrote, his sister “sat me down and asked for money.”
A sister hopes her brother can help support her financially during her pregnancy after successful IVF treatment – but she can’t believe she’s “asking other people to fund that personal choice.” (iStock)
He said he “has no problem with people choosing to be single parents if they can. – the long-term financial commitment involved.”
The man added, for further context, “I have a wife and a newborn son. When we have extra money, we use it to keep our own little family comfortable and save for a bigger house.”
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He said he now “lives in a one-bedroom condo.”
“They said families should support each other and I was being selfish and judgmental.”
So, with all that in mind, she said she told her sister that she wouldn’t be able to “help her pay the bills.”
This apparently did not end well.
His sister was “sad and angry,” he wrote. “They say families should support each other and I’m being selfish and considerate. My parents are also mad at me, saying I’m not a good brother. They think I should help them because they’re family and this is their dream.”
The man added, “He was very upset because it was my idea and I helped him research it.”
The brother, who is in his 30s, wrote to others on Reddit about the situation involving his sister, “It’s not like he doesn’t have a budget. He just doesn’t like to be frugal.” (iStock)
He said that, to try to help, he “offered” his sister “to eat dinner with us every night because she lives nearby, and (to) use my car, which is cheaper to run because of the electricity. It’s almost not enough.”
The man said he had “his own family to think about and financial goals to meet. I don’t think it makes sense to put myself in a difficult financial position for something that is (my sister’s) personal choice, even if I suggested it.”
“He’s 34 years old! Does he know what a budget is?”
He asked others if he was wrong to deny his sister financial support.
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The man added, in an edit to his post, that not only is his sister the owner of the house, but she makes “more money than me. She can really afford the kids.”
He added, in part, “It’s not like he doesn’t have a budget. He just doesn’t like to be frugal. He also invites me to buy a temporary car and eat dinner with the family every night.”
The man wrote on social media that he was “not involved” in his “sister’s treatment or consultation and I don’t agree with his decision. I helped him research (IVF treatment) because I’m trying to be a good brother.” (Getty Images)
She continued, “IVF is not my first suggestion. She is not going to adopt because she wants a biological child.”
He also said that he “wasn’t involved in treatment or counseling and I didn’t agree with his decision. I helped him research (it) because I was trying to be a good brother.”
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Fox News Digital reached out to a psychologist who specializes in family issues for his thoughts.
In the meantime, nearly 6,000 people have reacted to the drama so far, with more than 1,300 comments posted about the situation.
Overall, users on Reddit think the person is innocent because of their decision and their feelings.
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In the above “upvoted” comment, a Reddit user simply wrote about her sister, “She can move in with her parents.”
Wrote another, “She’s 34! Does she know what her budget is? Does she have a job that can support two (or more)? A big enough house? Daycare and babysitting plans?”
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Added the same person, “It looks like they have about seven months to figure it out. Your parents can’t give you money, but what can they do? Take care of the kids? Share the house so it’s cheaper for everyone. ?”
This person ends with – telling the brother – “You’re still working on your own child’s bedroom!”
Wrote another commenter, “Huh? She’s asking for $$$ after she made a big life choice that she knew would cost her a change in her finances. That’s crazy!!!”
