A Sad Woman Keeps Texting Her Deceased Father, Then He Answers

A woman mourning the sudden death of her father received an unexpected surprise after sending a message on her phone to tell her she missed her.

The death of a parent represents a seismic moment in anyone’s life, whether the child left behind is young or an adult. For Nilufar Nizam, the sudden loss of her father, Murad, in January this year, is still trying to process.

A study published in American Journal of Orthopsychiatry laying bare the impact this kind of loss can have on adult children. The findings highlight some early symptoms among people grieving the loss of a parent, including difficulty sleeping, work struggles and problems with certain people.

Other reactions that remain include becoming confused when thinking about a parent, experiencing pain when recalling memories of a lost mother or father or appearing upset when thinking about them.

“He died in his sleep, two weeks after his 51st birthday,” she said Newsweek. “He is very healthy, and I think it will be more difficult for me because even if he was sick before, I will know how to say goodbye and have more time with him.”

Over the past few months, Nizam said he has been fighting a lot of “inner battles”, trying to come to terms with what’s going on in his head.

“It’s not easy to lose a parent. It comes with unfamiliar emotions. You don’t know what they feel, and how they feel. Or some days you don’t feel anything,” he said. “It’s hard to believe that he’s gone, and I don’t know if I can accept it, and that’s why I believe I texted him to give him some kind of closure.”

Murad had always been someone his daughter liked to talk to about anything during her life. “He always gave me the best advice,” he said. “It’s like he has a gift for reading people, and every time I have a problem with someone or something, his advice, opinion or judgment is always right.”

This is the support that continues to be provided even after death. “I started texting him about a month after he died, because that’s what I used to do when he was alive,” Nizam said. “That message made me feel so good.”

These messages continued for several months until one day, Nizam’s “heart” when he received a reply.

“I’m sorry,” the message read. “This message was just sent. I guess they gave me a number.” Murad’s phone number has been given to someone else.

“I honestly felt betrayed at first,” he said. “I asked myself ‘how is it so easy for the rest of the world to continue, and the numbers are given so easily?’ I know I may sound selfish, but I’m so angry, I feel lost again.”

He began to blame himself for failing to prevent the number from being given to him. “

“I thought I could prevent this. Maybe I could call the phone line to save the number or continue to pay for the phone. I just didn’t think of this possibility, because this is my first experience with losing someone. I love him very much,” he said.

Nizam still knew that he had lost, but he was relieved to know that there were others who were still as sad as he was. He discovered that after sharing a video on TikTok detailing his experience.

“Father’s Day is coming up and I feel overwhelmed and sad that he’s not here,” she said. “I just decided to send it thinking that maybe people can find closure from the post and for them to know they are not alone. I realized after it became a virus that actually helped me in my healing journey, read all the comments.”

One TikTok user said: “I sent a photo of my wedding dress to my dad after graduation and got a text from whoever got his number after graduation.”

Another user commented, “I got a voicemail from a daughter who lost her mother. I never contacted her. I want her to still have a way to reach her mother.”

Nizam still messages his father through platforms like Facebook. She is still sad but has also learned to be better for herself.

“Many people, after losing a loved one, want to be there more often; they want to be able to do some things and blame themselves because many things can happen,” he said. “

But death is not in our hands, and we must embrace the memories we leave behind. People are quick to get rid of their grief because they think it’s a loss. Grief is love, so you always feel it.”