The family drama between four adults who now live under the same roof has attracted thousands of reactions over the past few days.
Writing on the Reddit page known as AITA (“Am I an a-hole?”), the husband and father shared that his stepson, “Ben”, who is 20 years old, is living with the family “right now during summer vacation from college. .”
About a month ago, the man said, his stepson asked if he could move his girlfriend home from college for the summer, “because he was having a hard time at home.”
Wrote a person with the username “spaceneededAITA,” “I don’t fully understand the idea because we already have two other kids (11 & 9) at home, and (have) four adults and two kids at home. We have plenty of space.”
However, the man’s wife “struggled not to say anything” to their 20-year-old son — so now a young woman named “Liv” is “living with us until he goes back to school,” the man wrote on the subreddit page. .
“There have been a number of issues that have come up since Liv arrived – all to do with me,” the man said.
He said, “First of all, one of the main reasons Liv wanted to change her life was because her parents were drunk. Now, I don’t drink every day, but I have alcohol at home and I like to drink it with a meal sometimes or have a few cocktails on the weekend. This causes Liv to see parents drinking with children.
He continued, “Secondly, Liv is a vegan. We eat a lot of meat at home. Pretty much every meal has meat. I also hunt, so we eat meat that we have harvested, and I have several mountains on the wall. This makes Liv uncomfortable.
Those things happened.
The man told us that “Ben and Liv sat down with my wife and (me) last weekend and gave us some advice to help Liv make it easier here.”
He said the young couple had three ideas for fixing things up at home.
“The first suggestion was that if I wanted to drink, I should do it in private and not in front of the children.”
The next idea, he says, “is to let Liv cook vegan food for us so we don’t eat so much meat. She offers to go shopping and plan meals to provide us with vegan food instead of regular food.
Finally, he continued, “he asked me if I could remove the mounts from the walls of the house until he went back to school in six weeks.”
After he finished, the man said, “I asked if it was okay if I spoke now and he replied. I said that my answer to all of his suggestions is ‘no.'”
He continued, “I said that I appreciate(d) Liv’s offer to cook for us and that she is free to cook some vegan food for us during the week if she wants, but we will not change our diet. One person. But as for the other suggestion, no happen.
The man added that his wife then “said and said it wouldn’t hurt to try some suggestions and see how it goes.”
He also said that “just six weeks and changing our lifestyle in such a short period of time will not kill us.”
The man said, “I told the three that if they want to change their way of life, they are free to do so. But he will not force me to change the way of life in my own house for a temporary guest.
He said that “if that means I cook a separate meal for myself, so be it. But the ride is still there and if I want a beer or a glass of wine, I’ll have it.”
He finished with, “All three thought I was being unreasonable and didn’t ask too many questions for such a short time.”
About 1,200 comments have come in about the angry family, with one saying, “What are you saying now? Liz contributed zero dollars to this household, but she’s asking how you should live in the house you paid for? And why, exactly Why should you care if you don’t?”
The same author added that the person was not wrong for the position he took.
“You should feel comfortable at home, and nothing you do is inappropriate.”
Another wrote, “Your stepson and his girlfriend are too young to think they have an opinion when they live rent-free in your house. Your wife is weak. Stay strong. This is your house first. If they complain, they are free to leave.”
Of all the comments in defense of the original poster, the following response about the family standoff received the most “upvotes” on the platform.
“It’s a good lesson for them that you can’t control the world around you and you certainly can’t control other people.”
Then, “He is lucky to be a guest and a guest should not ask questions like he did; it is not polite or respectful. If your lifestyle is too difficult for him, then your home is not a safe place, and he should make other arrangements.
The comment continued, “The biggest problem I see is, why does your husband think this is okay? Has he made the same request to you before?”
Finally, this: “PS I take you at your word to drink lightly. If you drink more than two tipples a day, it might help.
In response, the original poster added, “I don’t drink often. Some weeks I’ll drink 2-3 days. Sometimes I’ll go 1-2 weeks without a sip. But I have it at home and if I’m in the mood or I want to pair a drink with a meal , I did.
Fox News Digital reached out to the psychologist for comment on the situation.
