Reasons Women Refuse Parenting to Support ‘Toxic’ Siblings

A woman accused of stealing her sister’s wedding ring has been backed online for refusing to babysit her niece and nephew amid the drama.

On Thursday, u/Basic_Explorer9264 took to Reddit for advice on his personal life. The woman is her 32-year-old sister’s “babysitter,” often taking care of her three seven-year-old children at the family home.

Racking up 5,200 upvotes, the post details how Emily’s sister recently lost her wedding ring. The 25-year-old poster helped him search “all over the house” but couldn’t find it.

“A few days later, Emily called me again, this time in tears, accusing me of stealing her ring. She said she couldn’t think of anyone else who would take it because I was the only one in the house. I was shocked and hurt that she would accuse me like that, I tried to convince him that I wouldn’t listen back,” he wrote.

“I can’t believe my own sister would think so much of me. My parents joined and took Emily’s side, saying it was suspicious that she disappeared when I was there. They forced me to ‘confess’ and return the ring, but I stood my ground because I was innocent.

During this allegation, he said, Emily asked him to babysit for a few hours because there was an emergency at work but the woman refused.

The poster wrote: “(I told) they can’t help people who think I’m a thief. They call me selfish and say I’m punishing their children for not having a relationship.”

This led to more arguments and her parents were said to be “furious” because they believed she was “small and immature.”

“He believed that I should just let go for the sake of the children. Emily continued to insist that I take the ring, and my refusal to keep the baby only made the situation worse,” he wrote.

He ended the post by asking, “AITA (Am I The A******) for refusing to take care of her sister’s children after she was accused of stealing?”

Expert Advice

Newsweek talk to Dr Carolyne Keenan, a psychologist who works with adults, adolescents, families, and couples to explore, communicate and grow.

Kennan, based in West Sussex, England, described setting boundaries during high-conflict situations as “challenging”.

He said: “It is not unusual for family members to misinterpret new boundaries as rejection especially if they are done in high conflict situations. walking, although better boundaries tend to make everyone feel more valued and respected which creates a stronger and healthier relationship.”

Family arguments are not only a problem for the members involved but also for the minors. Kennan said disputes can cause “significant emotional pain, causing anxiety, behavioral problems, and long-term psychological effects.”

He told me Newsweek: “Parents can reduce this impact by modeling healthy conflict resolution, providing reassurance and stability, keeping adult issues private, and seeking professional help when needed.

“We teach children how to approach conflicts by showing them how to manage them in the family system. Conflict is inevitable in the family, but there is a big difference between a healthy and respectful conflict that can be resolved and a conflict that makes everyone feel isolated. disrespected and it can take a long time if the relationship is broken.

Reddit Reacts

At the time of writing, the post has nearly 2,000 comments and it’s clear that Reddit users have owned the poster. The top comment has only 5,900 upvotes.

He said: “NTA (No A******. This is horrible! Your sister has the audacity to accuse you of stealing, and then expect you to just raise her children as if nothing happened? Hell no. Enable this toxic behavior by siding with her without any evidence They’re treating you like a scapegoat, and it’s disgusting you don’t owe anything, especially babysitting the right to refuse babysit until they do this beyond just a misunderstanding; it’s a blatant attack on your character and don’t let them back down .

“NTA Your sister’s behavior is completely out of line, and your family should be ashamed of themselves. To expose someone to theft is a big deal, especially if it’s a close family member. And then turn around and expect you to steal like nothing happened. No politely, he should understand the gravity of what he is doing to you.

A third commenter said, “NTA. It’s not your fault that you don’t want to babysit. Your sister accused you of stealing her ring without proof. She even threatened to call the police on you. This is messed up. They usually don’t want to help. People think you’re a thief if you’re not.” be fair to him.

Newsweek hit u/Basic_Explorer9264 for comments. We are unable to verify the details of the case.

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