I had great sex with an old school friend — but he was a political killer

Welcome How I amseries which we give seven days sneak peek into sex life from a stranger.

This week we hear from Aaron*, a 33-year-old bi-curious man working as a freelance writer in Bristol.

After getting fed up with apps like Hinge and Tinder, Aaron made a promise to try and meet romantic interests in real life.

“It’s a challenge to find people on the dating app you have the same things and actually have a meaningful conversation with that can develop into a relationship,” said Harun.

But at a music festival a few weeks ago Aaron bumped into an old school friend, Lisa*. After asking her out, the pair are now dating. ‘It’s early days but our sex has been phenomenal – we communicate really well, and we both have the same desires in the bedroom,’ said Aaron.

So, without further ado, let’s take a look at Aaron’s week…

The following sex diary is, as you can imagine, not safe for work.

Monday

When I met Lisa, the conversation flowed and felt great, so I mustered all the self-confidence I could manage and asked her out – I like it when I work.

He actually said he had thought about doing the same thing, but I got there first!

The past three dates have been great, but my most recent dating experience hasn’t turned into anything, so I’m still nervous for our date tonight.

After a busy long weekend camping in Cornwall with friends, I returned home just in time to shower and pick out an outfit. I decided on a black cord, a blue shirt, and a pair of low-top Dr. Martens.

Lisa and I had planned to meet in the park, she brought strawberries and cream and I brought prosecco. This is our fourth date but because Lisa is an old school friend who I fell out of touch with more than ten years ago, it feels like we have skipped some of the standard steps you go through when dating someone new.

After hours of talking and joking, we headed back to Lisa’s house. We started foreplay on top of the cover in her bedroom, I stroke her neck and stomach slowly at first, before speeding up.

Then, when I struggled to remove my top, Lisa helped me before she removed herself with far less fuss. I started to caress his shoulders and then massaged his elbows and then his chest.

Lisa is very communicative in the bedroom and knows exactly what she likes. It encourages me to do the same. He asks me to go on top, then he on top, and we go through an array of positions until we both climax – only to do the same again about an hour later.

I’ve never really had a sexual partner be transparent about what they like, so this is really refreshing. Lisa always tells us what she likes, which I think is a big reason why we’re so sexually compatible.

Tuesday

The alarm was set to go off an hour before Lisa had to get ready for work, so we had time for some more fun in the morning.

We kiss passionately before we go through the stages quickly, both end up dripping in sweat. We were both almost done when suddenly the alarm rang again to let us know it was time to wake up.

It kills the mood More – Lisa managed to find her clothes and put them on, almost immediately and head out the front door.

Yesterday’s physical training and less sleep than usual meant the day was not as productive as I would have liked. However, I was in a great mood and later that evening I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow.

Wednesday

I woke up feeling refreshed, but I won’t see Lisa until Thursday, so today I have to prioritize my work.

After finishing the copy for the magazine article Lisa sent me a photo of her in the football shirt she somehow managed to steal from me. She looks great!

Later I went out to dinner with friends – when you start dating new people, I think it’s important to still put time into other relationships. These people will stay in your life longer than the person you date, after all.

At the moment, I’m not looking for anything long term. Some of my friends are getting married, I just don’t feel the rush – although I know this could change.

Lisa and I haven’t talked about the future yet, we’re just having fun.

Thursday

I woke up in a good mood and went to my office downtown. I then tried to do my best so that I could take a shower before meeting Lisa at six o’clock.

We will sit at Clifton Downs, a park overlooking the Suspension Bridge, before hopefully returning to the venue.

When we met, Lisa’s hair was in a ponytail, she was wearing a black Lucy and Yak jumpsuit with black Nike Janowski trainers – she looked effortlessly cool.

This kind of view always stimulates conversation and we talk about past relationships, family and politics.

I’m starting to realize that Lisa doesn’t share some of my radical politics which, if I’m honest, could be a concern in the long term.

Politics is a real deal breaker for me. At the end of the day, it’s what’s on my mind the most and informs what I read, watch, listen to and write. My partner and I need to be aligned.

However, of course I really like him and respect his opinion.

We returned to her and started kissing passionately on the bed. He put his hand down my trousers, then I moved on top of Lisa before kissing the length of her body until my face between her legs.

Lisa seems to be close to coming but tells me to move on her before she does. I went upstairs while he grabbed the vibrator from the bottom left of the drawer, and in a few minutes we both came together – perfection.

Friday

Morning sex is something we both really enjoy, and today, we make sure to set aside an extra 15 minutes compared to Tuesday, so that we can be full of experience.

After that, we even had time to enjoy coffee and cereal together – a real bonus for me, because breakfast is something I can’t go without.

During breakfast we started laughing about one of our old school teachers, the conversation put us in a good mood but it meant I had to sacrifice my morning shower.

I kissed Lisa goodbye and went back to my office. We both had a good night’s sleep and a productive day at work.

saturday

Lisa and I met briefly in the morning for coffee, where we talked about our weekend plans. He was going to a gig, while I was going to Pen Y Fan to hike with two friends.

We weren’t going to spend the night together, but we both agreed that a sleepless date was important. It helps the relationship grow at a steady pace.

We share a kiss before going our separate ways.

Week

Waking up in a tent on the side of a mountain always puts me in a reflective mood.

I’m really proud of myself for asking Lisa on a date, it feels like a foreign thing to do when this generation’s dating climate is centered around dating apps.

However, even though Lisa and I physically connected incredibly well, I wasn’t sure it would last long. I just need to get a deeper understanding of their politics before deciding if I’m going to be with them long term.

I always imagined that the people I would meet would be involved in the same activism as me. I love that Lisa is so passionate about the causes I support. If we talk about our beliefs and decide they don’t match, that could be the end for me.

One thing is clear: in the future, if unfortunately Lisa and I will be separated, instead of relying on the application, I will try to trust to ask people.

Even if someone says no, I won’t let my self-esteem get in the way. I will allow for a rich dating experience.

Good communication and clear intentions can turn things around – this cannot be underestimated.

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